I would definitely reccomment this book to anyone who has been lied to and decieved by a loved one. I read this two weeks after I found out my fiance had been cheating on me for 2 1/2 years. Although I chose to end it, it helped me sort out alot of the chaos in my mind.

I was recently dumped by a pathological liar who lied about EVERY aspect of his life. Although it still hurts, I know I'm much better off. This book really clarified for me the "little white lies" compared to the whoppers that can affect everything in your life.

When your gut is telling you one thing and he is telling you another, the confusion literally weakens your mental powers and makes you doubt yourself. You slow down at work, your creative powers diminish, your lust for life fades and you suffer all the effects of emotional abuse. Betrayal, just one of the types of lying discussed in this book, is one of the most damaging forms of emotional abuse there is.

This is another no-nonsense tell-it-like-it-is book from Susan. She's keeping us all sane and on the path to maturity. When you read a book by someone who tells you that verbal or emotional abuse is partly your fault or that you brought it on and that you can make changes to yourself to "fix" this relationship, that's another form of abuse. Statistics are clear - some 97% of men do not stay after being betrayed and lied to. Women tend to be slower to accept it, and suffer more emotionally and physically. Long-term, if they stay, the distrust and anger can grow and 20 years from now can cause the same problems that long-term abuse of any other kind can cause.

This author provides action plans - if you want to try to make it work - that are fair to **you**. She says it's not a good idea to forgive someone who has **done nothing to earn it.** She's made me strong again after a very abusive mother (Toxic Parents) and now, much later, a relationship characterized by lying. She keeps accountability where it belongs (not on the person who was hurt!) and provides the words you need to understand...'what just happened?'

You can not only get up and walk again when you get the truth about lying, you are much stronger and able to launch a new life. Although, I would like to see more from Susan about how to recover after all the abuse she writes about, I highly recommend this book.

This book has given me a window in understanding how and why a liar lies. It has helped me gaina clearer picture of what it si that I am dealing with.