The Hip Mama Survival Guide : Advice from the Trenches on Pregnancy, Childbirth, Cool Names, Clueless Doctors, Potty Training and Toddler Avengers 
asked by porsche on November 12, 2006 2:36 PM
Can a mother nurse after nipple piercing? Is it okay to name a child after a beverage? What's the best music to divorce by? Ariel Gore answers these and other tough questions in her hilarious and highly informative guide to pregnancy and early parenting, The Hip Mama Survival Guide. Gore gave birth to her daughter, Maia, at age 19, raised her on welfare while getting a college degree, and went on to create her own zine and Web site (and now, a parenting guide) devoted to non-nuclear-family moms everywhere. Gore's book uses straight-from-the-trenches experience, friendly encouragement, and a hearty dose of humor while covering the basics for mamas who may not have the comforts or privileges (like generous health insurance or state-of-the-art strollers) many traditional baby-care manuals presume to be accessible. Chapters include "Childbirth Sucks," "Beauty and the Gender Beast," "Poverty Without Despair," and "Guerrilla Mothering," and cover topics as diverse as nutrition, trimester development, circumcision, custody battles, domestic violence, co-parenting, political activism, working moms, and nervous breakdowns. Gore does not hide her feisty, liberal political bent, and she devotes a whole section to skewering the conservative right's vision of "family values." Each chapter ends with interview answers and advice from "rebel moms," ranging from Gore's friends to famous feminists like Mary Kay Blakely and Susie Bright. While Gore's advice may ring especially true for young single moms, her funny, realistic approach to mothering will show mamas of all races, ages, and means that hipness is well within their reach. --Brangien Davis
Reviews
I found this book to be so reassuring that it was all going to be ok. That I was going to be able to be a mom and not sacrifice my sense of identity. That being an SUV-driving Soccer Mom was not the inevitable result of my pregnancy. It is a good reminder that "you are enough" and that being an edgy, alternative, opinionated socially progressive mom is a great thing.
reviewed by pits on November 28, 2006 6:45 AM
At first, I thought this book would be a good idea. Being a liberal and a labor and delivery nurse, I thought it would be nice to see it from a patient's perspective. Wrong. It goes on a BOOK LONG anti-establishment rant. Some of my favorite topics included the author's opinions on breast feeding vs. bottle feeding and discipline. Against any form of feeding that is not from the breast? That's fine. Don't make the rest of us who don't want to breast feed (or who physically CAN'T, thank you very much) look like beasts from hell. And my favorite, "when your child is throwing a fit in the middle of a grocery store, be glad that they are able to and know how to express their opinions at a young age". Oh no. No, no, no. At that point, I would like to say that there is nothing wrong with giving your child a firm reminder who the parent is and just how they are to BEHAVE in a public place. It's not "repressing" your child's basic needs of expression, it's responsible/respectful parenting. Sounds to me like Ms. Gore needs a time out herself.
reviewed by glassysurf on November 28, 2006 12:36 PM
I am so tired of these people reviewing this book saying that they're upset because this book made them feel like nuclear families were supposed to be bad. Well boo hoo for you. Do we single mothers go on every other stinking parenting-book and trash about how there was nothing in it for us? No. Maybe we're just happy that there is finally a book that pertains to our specific problems. I do not have a husband, after we divorced he signed away his parental rights and neither I nor my 4 year old have seen him in almost 3 years. I could not ask my "partner" for support, because I didn't have one. When I was stressed from my daughter crying and screaming and throwing tantrums, I couldn't ask my "partner" to take care of her while I got my head together, because I didn't have one. You get the point. I'm just happy that there is a book that deals with our problems, and ways to deal with them without a partner, because not all of us are lucky enough to have married our perfect husband and have them support us no matter what.
reviewed by anexpert on November 29, 2006 12:04 AM
