This book has all the basics, what to look for, what to avoid. Not much in the way of the emotion of it, the head games, more the protocol, the more typical play. I hope everyone remembers that it is really about negotiation and that anything is possible. My favorite parts were the quotes, little quips overheard relating to BDSM.

This is a very good book for new commers to read. Lots of details and even illistrations of some things. I would deffinatly recammend it even to "expierenced" players.

I stumbled into the BDSM scene recently. I am lucky that I got to Jay's book early, although not early enough to avoid a few faux pas socially. Also, In his complete and very readable book I realised that some "experts" need to read it too, particularly when it comes to negotiation and safety. This book contains a lot of information lightened up with a few giggles. Worth the money even if you just THINK you may be interested in the subject.
Peter - San francisco

Great intro to what BDSM means and is all about. My interests are mainly in bondage and "giving erotic pain," and while I don't see myself ever having my own dungeon (too complicated with kids and my often >60 hr workweek but I love the idea!) and I'm too much of a monogamist to ever play with anyone other than my wife, this book is excellent for building a base of knowledge that someone can use to enter and enjoy BDSM in whatever level of involvement he or she might be interested. Dispels much of the myth and prejudice with which BDSM is viewed (good even for an "open-minded" person such as myself) - the dark, dangerous, abusive and freaky practice of perverts. It's funny to think of how many people are into BDSM and don't know it (ever given your sig other a little spanking, fantasized about handcuffs, or done a little roleplaying?). Not a bad place to start as far as bondage interests are concerned; once I'm done with this review, I'm going to buy the bondage books by Jay Wiseman and Midori. And I definitely liked the chapter on giving erotic pain. He takes a lot of time explaining how to be caring and considerate (as both a "top" and a "bottom"), and how to always play it safe. Much appreciated book, and a quick read despite so much useful quality information. If you're already very involved with BDSM, this book would probably be rather elementary, but then again, you most likely read this book a long time ago. Even if your interests are peripheral at best, this book will open your mind and if nothing else, feed your curiosity and educate you about a world that many of us didn't know existed.

This book was well-written. It's focus is on safety and it helps to keep one's mind open!