I recieved this book through my mops group at church and it is the best I have ever read! It will change your idea's on marriage. I have been married for 5 years and it changed my views of what it should be!!! Other Bible based books I have read about marriage left me feeling that submittion is demeaning and that I would loose myself in the process, but this book is empowering! It took all the anxiety I had about biblical submission away... And shows husbands how to be servant-leaders, just like Christ. Books now days either show you how to manipulate or tell you to loose yourself for the sake of marriage and I wanted neither. This book is a refreshing look at each roll in marriage...the way God designed them to be, so that we can have biblically based marriages. I want to read it agian with my husband!
It would be a great book for engaged couples to read...they could go into a marriage without false expectations, and know what the Bible lays out for marriage.

I have read countless books on marriage, and they all seem to lack something...which is mostly a clear cut DESCRIPTION in lamens terms of what a wife's MAIN duties are in marriage and what a husbands MAIN duties are per the Bible. THIS BOOK clearly states that in a refreshing way.

I LOVE that pretty much every principal in the book is backed up with scripture, that it's not just their opinion. It's God's opinion for marriage.

Traditional marriages never worked and role less (50/50) marriages don't work. If they did the divorce rate wouldn't continue to be so high and couples wouldn't continue to feel so disillusioned in their marriages and thinking SOMETHING is missing. If you are looking for a guide to your marriage and have not found it yet THIS is the book I would recommend.

I devoured this book in 2 afternoons. My husband and I are now reading it TOGETHER every Wed. evening as our own personal "bible study" on marriage (he was TRULY impressed how quickly I read it and scribbled notes :). I have already mailed a copy of this book to a girlfriend who recently got married. I've convinced my sister who is in a serious relationship to purchase it and talk about it with her boyfriend (she in turn has bought it for her girlfriend who is recently married) AND I'm thinking of sending it to my little sister, 20 yrs old. because although she is not in a relationship I want her to see the kind of servant leader the Lord wants her to have and to strive to find a man with these characteristics and for her to live up to her potential in God's eyes one day.

I'm surprised how much this book has touched me, and in return my marriage and the domino effect it has had because of that to others in my life. When you FINALLY find the answers to your questions I guess you want to share it with the world. lol.

I've been married just over 2 years. My husband and i read this book during our engagement. Because of the fact that we are a multi-ethnic couple (i'm caucasian, he's arab), it was essential that we work at figuring out what God's design for marriage is, not just what the 'american' or the 'eastern-arab' traditional model is...because it would just be too hard to combine both of our backgrounds!...even though we are both evangelical Christians. granted, most couples are not in our unique situation, but even so, i highly recommend this book. it is easy to read and is factual, as opposed to being an 'emotional' attempt at getting the reader to ascribe to the author's viewpoint. It's definitely different than anything you may have ever read...and so different than other books i've read on marriage. i encourage you to give it a read and let me know what you think.

This is a great book! Lewis and Hendricks do a great job of explaining why the leaderless marriage concept simply does not work (would you work for an organization that had no leader?). They also address the fallacies behind the traditional roles (i.e. mom stays at home, while dad brings home the bacon)and suggest that there must be another alternative. The reader will get a crash course in the differences between men and women and what each person needs to perform their biblical roles. With a national divorce rate of more than 50%, its obvious that what we have been trying doesn't work. Lewis and Hendricks appeal to the reader to return to God's original design for marriage. Prepare to have your paradigms challenged.

This is absolutely the best book I have read on building a strong marriage. The "traditional" family structure had some problems, and the "roleless" backlash against that traditional family had even more problems. The answer is not in either of those imperfect systems, but in God's perfect design. Eight years after reading the book for the first time I am still working towards being the servant leader.