Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves: Transforming Parent-child Relationships from Reaction And Struggle to Freedom, Power And Joy 
asked by 78704 on November 24, 2006 6:14 AM
Every parent would happily give up ever scolding, punishing or threatening if she only knew how to ensure that her toddler/child/teen would thrive and act responsibly without such painful measures. Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves is the answer to this universal wish. It is not about gentle ways to control a child, but about a way of being and of understanding a child so she/he can be the best of herself, not because she fears you, but because she wants to, of her own free will.
"Aldort's book should be on the must read list of all Moms and Dads. This book could carry a subtitle: "Saving the Emotional Lives of Our Children and The Future of Humanity.""
- James Prescott, Ph.D. Institute of Humanistic Science
"Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves operates on the radical premise that neither child nor parent must dominate; it is for those who want to give up scolding, threatening and punishing. Her SALVE "formula" alone is worth the price of the book." - Peggy O'Mara Editor and Publisher of Mothering
"Every once in awhile, a writer comes along who is comfortable speaking the truth, no matter how much it might challenge us or make us uncomfortable. Naomi Aldort is one of those people. In Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves, Naomi Aldort takes the struggle out of parenting and replaces controlling and shaping style of parenting with one that values, trusts and nurtures children's innate abilities and autonomy."
- Wendy Priesnitz Editor of Life Learning magazine, author of School Free and Challenging Assumptions in Education
"In this stunning insight into human nature, Naomi Aldort opens a window into harmonious family living. This book should to be widely read and not just by parents but by every being who strives for a more peaceful world."
- Veronika Robinson, Editor of The Mother magazine, UK
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I have a young child who tends to get very aggressive when trying to tell me that his needs aren't being met. Until recently, he never listened to anything I asked of him. I was at my wits end. I'd tried everything. Things only got worse.
Then I found the answer that unlocked the mystery behind my child's behavior in Aldort's book, "Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves." It changed my relationship with my son the day I started following her recommendations. As I learned from the book (verified by my experience) it won't do any good to punish a child's behavior; it fact, it will only make it worse. There's an underlying reason for his behavior, and until I address it in an understanding and kind way, it will continue. Now I understand why he was acting the way he was and, more importantly, how I was causing it without even knowing it. Once I understood him, I could concentrate on solving the larger problem rather than correcting (punishing) the behavior.
Ever since I changed the way I interact with and speak to my child (according to Aldort's recommendations), my relationship with him has been transformed and, no surprise, he hasn't been aggressive at all. The book has given me tools of love and connection in all areas of parenting. I can't recommend this book highly enough. Buy one for yourself and one for all of your friends.
Then I found the answer that unlocked the mystery behind my child's behavior in Aldort's book, "Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves." It changed my relationship with my son the day I started following her recommendations. As I learned from the book (verified by my experience) it won't do any good to punish a child's behavior; it fact, it will only make it worse. There's an underlying reason for his behavior, and until I address it in an understanding and kind way, it will continue. Now I understand why he was acting the way he was and, more importantly, how I was causing it without even knowing it. Once I understood him, I could concentrate on solving the larger problem rather than correcting (punishing) the behavior.
Ever since I changed the way I interact with and speak to my child (according to Aldort's recommendations), my relationship with him has been transformed and, no surprise, he hasn't been aggressive at all. The book has given me tools of love and connection in all areas of parenting. I can't recommend this book highly enough. Buy one for yourself and one for all of your friends.
reviewed by siriusfanboy on November 26, 2006 6:55 PM
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Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves is unlike other parenting books and much more effective. I have read good advice before, but couldn't change my habits. This book gives the tools of personal growth that make it possible to be the loving mother that I really want to be. This is not esoteric philosophizing; it is useful advice with a five-step approach that is eminently doable. Each step is illustrated with story after story about parents who discover, or rediscover, the power of love as they replace controlling parenting techniques with gentle nurturing.
In applying Ms. Aldort's suggestions myself, I have found that my listening and communication skills are improving and I am definitely more mindful, more empathetic, and more flexible as a parent. Happily, my children have noticed this change and, even more happily, have emulated it in their relationships with each other, with their father, with me, and with friends. A little positive parenting goes a long way!!
Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves is a must-read, must-have book for parents who are trying to break a personal or cultural cycle of authoritarianism and start becoming the mothers and fathers they wish to be.
In applying Ms. Aldort's suggestions myself, I have found that my listening and communication skills are improving and I am definitely more mindful, more empathetic, and more flexible as a parent. Happily, my children have noticed this change and, even more happily, have emulated it in their relationships with each other, with their father, with me, and with friends. A little positive parenting goes a long way!!
Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves is a must-read, must-have book for parents who are trying to break a personal or cultural cycle of authoritarianism and start becoming the mothers and fathers they wish to be.
reviewed by selena on November 28, 2006 10:55 AM
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If you want to raise children who feel loved, accepted, and respected, and you want to feel loved, accepted, and respected by your children, read Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves.
As a parent, a grandparent, a parent educator, and the author of Connection Parenting, I am thrilled with Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves. Naomi Aldort is a master teacher. Through inspiring stories and her brilliant examples of parenting through connection, Naomi shows us how to stop reacting to children's feelings and behavior with words and actions we later regret, and teaches us how to provide loving guidance and strong leadership instead.
I was so excited when I read Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves I contacted Naomi and asked her if I could send her my book. Naomi and I didn't know each other, or each other's work, until we read each other's books. Now that we have, we agree that our books compliment each other perfectly.
Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves raises parenting through connection to the level of mastery. I am recommending it as the perfect companion to Connection Parenting in all my parenting talks and classes. Thank you Naomi Aldort. Everyday I use something I learned from your book.
As a parent, a grandparent, a parent educator, and the author of Connection Parenting, I am thrilled with Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves. Naomi Aldort is a master teacher. Through inspiring stories and her brilliant examples of parenting through connection, Naomi shows us how to stop reacting to children's feelings and behavior with words and actions we later regret, and teaches us how to provide loving guidance and strong leadership instead.
I was so excited when I read Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves I contacted Naomi and asked her if I could send her my book. Naomi and I didn't know each other, or each other's work, until we read each other's books. Now that we have, we agree that our books compliment each other perfectly.
Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves raises parenting through connection to the level of mastery. I am recommending it as the perfect companion to Connection Parenting in all my parenting talks and classes. Thank you Naomi Aldort. Everyday I use something I learned from your book.
reviewed by caramel on November 29, 2006 2:02 AM
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I first learned about Naomi Aldort when I read an article by her in Life Learning Magazine. It was an article on how to talk to children about death. It was brilliant, and I feel that her new book Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves is also brilliant.
The title is perfect, because it's so much about raising ourselves to the next level: re-parenting ourselves, and in the process, freeing ourselves to love our children as they are. To help enhance your learning even more, buy Aldort's book together with Loving What Is by Byron Katie.
But by all means, run, don't walk to Amazon and get Naomi Aldort's life-transforming book! (And then buy copies for all your friends with children!)
The title is perfect, because it's so much about raising ourselves to the next level: re-parenting ourselves, and in the process, freeing ourselves to love our children as they are. To help enhance your learning even more, buy Aldort's book together with Loving What Is by Byron Katie.
But by all means, run, don't walk to Amazon and get Naomi Aldort's life-transforming book! (And then buy copies for all your friends with children!)
reviewed by skywalker on November 29, 2006 2:40 AM
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There was a time when people thought the earth was flat...this theory no longer applies. There was a time when struggling with children was the norm. This theory also no longer applies. Naomi's book is a challenge to old thinking and old theories that just don't fit when love and compassion are present.
I laughed and cried and healed as a result of reading this book and I recommend it to all parents. It is truly about changing your mind and simply finding that when love comes straight from the heart, children flourish as a result.
The book is filled with user-friendly ideas and strategies that relate to real life situations of children of all ages. Get this book you will be so happy
you did!
I laughed and cried and healed as a result of reading this book and I recommend it to all parents. It is truly about changing your mind and simply finding that when love comes straight from the heart, children flourish as a result.
The book is filled with user-friendly ideas and strategies that relate to real life situations of children of all ages. Get this book you will be so happy
you did!
reviewed by willie on November 29, 2006 9:54 AM