Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Create Your Life, Your Relationships, and Your World in Harmony with Your Values 
asked by osx on November 3, 2006 6:10 AM
Do you hunger for skills to improve the quality of your relationships, to deepen your sense of personal empowerment or to simply communicate more effectively? Unfortunately, for centuries our culture has taught us to think and speak in ways that can actually perpetuate conflict, internal pain and even violence. Nonviolent Communication partners practical skills with a powerful consciousness and vocabulary to help you get what you want peacefully.
In this internationally acclaimed text, Marshall Rosenberg offers insightful stories, anecdotes, practical exercises and role-plays that will dramatically change your approach to communication for the better. Discover how the language you use can strengthen your relationships, build trust, prevent conflicts and heal pain. Revolutionary, yet simple, NVC offers you the most effective tools to reduce violence and create peace in your life—one interaction at a time.
Over 150,000 copies sold and now available in 20 languages around the world. More than 250,000 people each year from all walks of life are learning these life-changing skills.
In this internationally acclaimed text, Marshall Rosenberg offers insightful stories, anecdotes, practical exercises and role-plays that will dramatically change your approach to communication for the better. Discover how the language you use can strengthen your relationships, build trust, prevent conflicts and heal pain. Revolutionary, yet simple, NVC offers you the most effective tools to reduce violence and create peace in your life—one interaction at a time.
Over 150,000 copies sold and now available in 20 languages around the world. More than 250,000 people each year from all walks of life are learning these life-changing skills.
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Some valuable insights into giving and receiving communication. Helpful in understanding the way we communicate ourselves to others.
reviewed by bigben on November 20, 2006 4:21 AM
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Marshall's strategies for active listening really work. I teach middle school, and it has worked both at work and with my family. A good step along the way to transformation.
reviewed by benzdrives on November 27, 2006 12:15 PM
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This book is a reader-friendly guide to the realm of NVC--non-violent communication, a long-forgotten technique to get along with ourself and others. Systematic approach to refresh our way of communication and cast new lights on improving interpersonal relationship.
reviewed by work on November 29, 2006 4:47 AM
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NVC picks up where Harville Hendrix's Imago techniques left off. My husband and I now have tools for far more than just our relationship together. We've used NVC techniques for decision-making and found a win-win solution to a complex problem that left everyone feeling like their needs had been heard and addressed, if not completely met. This alone was worth the price of the book!
I think the NVC work is deceptively simple, but not at all easy. It's taking a lot of awareness on my part to respond differently from my habitual ways. When I do, the results are amazing. To paraphrase the Rolling Stones, I don't always get what I want, but I get what I need.
No conflict necessary to enjoy the benefits! I'm discovering that NVC even works with acquaintances who, after all, just want to feel heard.
I really, REALLY wish my parents had communicated this way with me when I was growing up. But hey, it's not too late for me to change myself.
I will be getting the NVC home training CDs as soon as it comes out.
I think the NVC work is deceptively simple, but not at all easy. It's taking a lot of awareness on my part to respond differently from my habitual ways. When I do, the results are amazing. To paraphrase the Rolling Stones, I don't always get what I want, but I get what I need.
No conflict necessary to enjoy the benefits! I'm discovering that NVC even works with acquaintances who, after all, just want to feel heard.
I really, REALLY wish my parents had communicated this way with me when I was growing up. But hey, it's not too late for me to change myself.
I will be getting the NVC home training CDs as soon as it comes out.
reviewed by blueoasis on November 29, 2006 6:16 PM
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First, the basics. Before I read this book, I had no idea that there were learnable techniques for enhancing your performance of empathy. For that matter, I didn't even know that empathy is something that you do; I thought that it was just something that you feel. Well, it turns out that empathy is really an activity with techniques, and this book teaches them.
Now for some context. In the last year, I've read about twenty books on emotional intelligence (EQ) and related topics. (If you're unfamiliar with the term, just think of EQ as "socio-emotional fitness". It can be roughly divided into self-awareness, self-direction, social perception and relationship management.) Good intellectual frameworks for understanding EQ have been easy for me to find; practical instructions for increasing your EQ seem rather more rare. (By "practical instructions" I mean pragmatic action plans with specific things to DO, not just project proposals with goals to accomplish. It's a shame how often the latter is presented when the former is needed.) In my reading experience, "Nonviolent Communication" is THE premiere how-to guide for improving your performance at doing empathy, which is one of the fundamental competencies of EQ.
Third, a caution in the form of a metaphor. The author is proffering you a diamond while demonstrating an oddly formal way of holding it. Just take the diamond and ignore the formalities. That is to say, other reviewers have pointed out that he uses some rather stilted language at times, and that's true; but, the phrasing is NOT the point. The remarkable insights are what matter.
Fourth, an idiosyncratic recommendation. One of most amazing ways that this book helped me was by teaching me how to empathize with my OWN needs. That made it much easier for me to tackle certain problem behaviors of mine without threatening the universal human psychological needs that those behaviors were (self-defeatingly) satisfying. (The book "Flawless!" by Tartaglia is a good place to start for that, BTW.) I firmly believe that one of the best uses of "Nonviolent Communication" is to lay a strong cognitive foundation for future self-improvement.
Finally, some setting of expectations. As with any competency training techniques -- musical performance, physical fitness, whatever -- how much you benefit will depend on how much you practice. However, if you work at it then you will change your thinking, which will change your behavior, which will change your character and your circumstances, which will change your destiny, which will change the world.
This book is eagerly waiting to improve the human condition through you. Will you activate it?
Now for some context. In the last year, I've read about twenty books on emotional intelligence (EQ) and related topics. (If you're unfamiliar with the term, just think of EQ as "socio-emotional fitness". It can be roughly divided into self-awareness, self-direction, social perception and relationship management.) Good intellectual frameworks for understanding EQ have been easy for me to find; practical instructions for increasing your EQ seem rather more rare. (By "practical instructions" I mean pragmatic action plans with specific things to DO, not just project proposals with goals to accomplish. It's a shame how often the latter is presented when the former is needed.) In my reading experience, "Nonviolent Communication" is THE premiere how-to guide for improving your performance at doing empathy, which is one of the fundamental competencies of EQ.
Third, a caution in the form of a metaphor. The author is proffering you a diamond while demonstrating an oddly formal way of holding it. Just take the diamond and ignore the formalities. That is to say, other reviewers have pointed out that he uses some rather stilted language at times, and that's true; but, the phrasing is NOT the point. The remarkable insights are what matter.
Fourth, an idiosyncratic recommendation. One of most amazing ways that this book helped me was by teaching me how to empathize with my OWN needs. That made it much easier for me to tackle certain problem behaviors of mine without threatening the universal human psychological needs that those behaviors were (self-defeatingly) satisfying. (The book "Flawless!" by Tartaglia is a good place to start for that, BTW.) I firmly believe that one of the best uses of "Nonviolent Communication" is to lay a strong cognitive foundation for future self-improvement.
Finally, some setting of expectations. As with any competency training techniques -- musical performance, physical fitness, whatever -- how much you benefit will depend on how much you practice. However, if you work at it then you will change your thinking, which will change your behavior, which will change your character and your circumstances, which will change your destiny, which will change the world.
This book is eagerly waiting to improve the human condition through you. Will you activate it?
reviewed by h2o on November 29, 2006 7:28 PM