Nobody Likes Me, Everybody Hates Me: The Top 25 Friendship Problems and How to Solve Them 
asked by perfectstorm on November 8, 2006 7:23 AM
Do you wish your kid had more friends or could keep the ones she has? Is teasing, gossiping, bullying, or cyber-bullying a problem? Is she often left out or rejected by other kids? Does he just follow the crowd? Are you concerned about his friends? Does she complain that she’s unpopular or that nobody likes her? Are you at a loss for how to help your child handle those play dates, sleepovers, being shy, too sensitive, too competitive, or having a bad reputation?
Look no further. The resource you need to solve these problems and boost your child’s social competence is in your hands Based on a survey of five thousand teachers and parents, Nobody Likes Me shows how to teach your child the 25 most essential friendship-building skills kids need to find, make, and keep friends, as well as survive that social pressure from peers.
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I thought this book was great and offered plenty of great advice (my children are 2-7 so I am reviewing it from that perspective). There are discussions on 25 friendship problems: argues, bad friends, bad reputation, bossy, bullied and harassed, cliques, clueless, different, does't share, fights, gossips, hot tempered, insensitive, jealous and resentful, left out, new kid, peer pressure, shy, siblings, sleepovers, tattletale, teased, tiffs and breakups, too competative, and too sensitive. No one child is going to have all these problems, but the sections are separate so you can read just the sections that apply to your child.
The reason I docked one star is because of the "shy child" section. I have a very quiet, or "shy" child so was particularily interested in this part. However, the author points out to never let anyone call your child "shy" but "SHY" is in the title of her chapter, in the title of all the suggested reading books for children and parents, and is the word of choice to talk about this personality trait. So, it's really confusing. Does she think the word shy is OK or not? It's not totally clear....Anyhow, I guess the main point is even if your child is "shy" don't let him/her use this as an excuse. Help him/her to work thru it.
Anyhow, I would recommend this book for your parenting library. It's easy to use and well organized.
The reason I docked one star is because of the "shy child" section. I have a very quiet, or "shy" child so was particularily interested in this part. However, the author points out to never let anyone call your child "shy" but "SHY" is in the title of her chapter, in the title of all the suggested reading books for children and parents, and is the word of choice to talk about this personality trait. So, it's really confusing. Does she think the word shy is OK or not? It's not totally clear....Anyhow, I guess the main point is even if your child is "shy" don't let him/her use this as an excuse. Help him/her to work thru it.
Anyhow, I would recommend this book for your parenting library. It's easy to use and well organized.
reviewed by benzdrives on November 17, 2006 9:37 AM
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Did anyone else notice that the 8 glowing reviews were all written within a month of each other, and all within a month and a half of when the book was first published? Hmmm.
reviewed by shagdag on November 18, 2006 2:28 PM
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The advice in this book is easy to understand and follow, but sometimes falls into the realm of overly simplistic. I found myself searching vainly through the book for more depth, but I am not sorry that it got me started on the right track to tackling my issue with my daughter.
reviewed by vegaswinner on November 19, 2006 11:24 AM
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Nobody Likes Me... is a fabulous book. There is so much emphasis these days placed on teaching kids the 3 R's and preparing them for future careers that many parents don't realize that social competence and confidence are what really enable kids to grow up to be successful and happy people.
And, sadly, there are few opportunities for kids to develop these social skills. As the author of Your Children are Under Attack: How Popular Culture is Destroying Your Kids' Values, and How You Can Protect Them (Sourcebooks, 2005), I regularly see a culture of peer pressure, bullying, cliques, social ostracism, and cruelty in schools.
Dr. Borba offers parents valuable insights and practical tools they can use to minimize the destructive aspects and maximize the positive aspects of their children's relationships. She shows kids how to develop healthy and safe friendships, and how to avoid the bad roads that popular culture tells them they need to go down to be accepted and popular.
Dr. Borba's book is an essential weapon that parents can use in the war against popular culture. Teaching children how to develop and maintain meaningful and lasting friendships, and to gain the skills and confidence in their "social selves" are wonderful gifts that all parents can give their children to lead a successful and happy life. Dr. Borba's book can show the way.
And, sadly, there are few opportunities for kids to develop these social skills. As the author of Your Children are Under Attack: How Popular Culture is Destroying Your Kids' Values, and How You Can Protect Them (Sourcebooks, 2005), I regularly see a culture of peer pressure, bullying, cliques, social ostracism, and cruelty in schools.
Dr. Borba offers parents valuable insights and practical tools they can use to minimize the destructive aspects and maximize the positive aspects of their children's relationships. She shows kids how to develop healthy and safe friendships, and how to avoid the bad roads that popular culture tells them they need to go down to be accepted and popular.
Dr. Borba's book is an essential weapon that parents can use in the war against popular culture. Teaching children how to develop and maintain meaningful and lasting friendships, and to gain the skills and confidence in their "social selves" are wonderful gifts that all parents can give their children to lead a successful and happy life. Dr. Borba's book can show the way.
reviewed by bigchad on November 22, 2006 11:51 AM