Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them : When Loving Hurts and You Don't Know Why 
asked by caramel on November 19, 2006 8:34 PM
Is this the way love is supposed to feel?
• Does the man you love assume the right to control how you live and behave?
• Have you given up important activities or people to keep him happy?
• Is he extremely jealous and possessive?
• Does he switch from charm to anger without warning?
• Does he belittle your opinions, your feelings, or your accomplishments?
• Does he withdraw love, money, approval, or sex to punish you?
• Does he blame you for everything that goes wrong in the relationship?
• Do you find yourself “walking on eggs” and apologizing all the time?
If the questions here reveal a familiar pattern, you may be in love with a misogynist — a man who loves you, yet causes you tremendous pain because he acts as if he hates you.
In this superb self-help guide, Dr. Susan Forward draws on case histories and the voices of men and women trapped in these negative relationships to help you understand your man’s destructive pattern and the part you play in it.
She shows how to break the pattern, heal the hurt, regain your self-respect, and either rebuild your relationship or find the courage to love a truly loving man.
• Does the man you love assume the right to control how you live and behave?
• Have you given up important activities or people to keep him happy?
• Is he extremely jealous and possessive?
• Does he switch from charm to anger without warning?
• Does he belittle your opinions, your feelings, or your accomplishments?
• Does he withdraw love, money, approval, or sex to punish you?
• Does he blame you for everything that goes wrong in the relationship?
• Do you find yourself “walking on eggs” and apologizing all the time?
If the questions here reveal a familiar pattern, you may be in love with a misogynist — a man who loves you, yet causes you tremendous pain because he acts as if he hates you.
In this superb self-help guide, Dr. Susan Forward draws on case histories and the voices of men and women trapped in these negative relationships to help you understand your man’s destructive pattern and the part you play in it.
She shows how to break the pattern, heal the hurt, regain your self-respect, and either rebuild your relationship or find the courage to love a truly loving man.
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My relationship with my ex-husband was abusive, to say the least, but did not seem to manifest the typical patterns of domestic violence. At the time, I was a graduate student with strong ambitions, and an even stronger will...but I couldn't understand why my ex-husband seemed to take pleasure in humiliating me, undermining my accomplishments, and trying to convince me that I was crazy (traits that he only began to exhibit after we were married)! Forward's book gave me the strength to heal, and the courage to pursue a divorce from my abusive ex-husband. This book provided me with, not only theorietical explanations for my ex-husband's mood swings and bizarre behavior, but also a foundation for me to attain some clarity about my toxic relationship patterns. The symptoms and case studies of the "misogynist" eerily described my ex-husband, as well as, every man that I have had a romantic relationship with! Thus, some of the material can be difficult to accept about yourself and your relationships, but this book is essential if you are ready to put an end to the abuse
reviewed by ragtop on November 28, 2006 4:14 AM
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In 1989, within weeks after my wedding my somewhat unreasonable yet charming spouse turned threatening and frightening. I was ashamed to admit failure and too stunned to believe the truth, but his raised fist, his fault finding and his rages brought about confusion, anxiety and depression. I didn't know where to turn but I came upon the first iteration of this book and read every word. I copied and made a "certificate of my rights" that I found in this book and presented them to my husband, but it didn't make a difference. It was up to me to make a change, but I didn't have faith in my judgement. I didn't believe in the truth behind what the book had to say; the truth behind what was happening to me. I stayed for 12 more years before I had the strength to leave.
Now I am starting a program to teach high school students the warning signs of an abusive relationship. I hope I can prevent the pain for someone, maybe even more than just one someone.
I wish I realized how important this book was so many years ago. Now I see it as a resource for the work I do.
Now I am starting a program to teach high school students the warning signs of an abusive relationship. I hope I can prevent the pain for someone, maybe even more than just one someone.
I wish I realized how important this book was so many years ago. Now I see it as a resource for the work I do.
reviewed by bigchad on November 28, 2006 1:04 PM
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A MUST READ! A friend gave me this book in 1987. She saved my life and the lives of my 4 young children. I was shocked to find that I wasn't the only woman in the world feeling trapped and ashamed about being the victim of an abusive mysoginist. Just discovering I wasn't crazy, and validating my feelings, gave me the strength I needed to protect my children AND myself by leaving him. It wasn't easy, but we did it. The kids are all grown now and doing well. I'm purchasing this book for a friend who's been married to an abusive man for almost 30 years. She wants to leave, but he's got her convinced she's crazy. Maybe by reading this book that helped me, she, too will realize she's not the crazy person in the relationship.
reviewed by scanner on November 29, 2006 2:28 AM
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I liked this book because I found there was a description for a person like this - an explanation for what I went through - a suggestion for what to do about it! I felt very validated....wish I had known all this 30 years ago
reviewed by faithfulone on November 29, 2006 2:29 PM