I gave it a shot...I really did...and once again I was disappointed...Perhaps it works for some and the book was intended for those people, but for those of us who don't have the energy to keep breaking our hearts over and over again by "hoping" it just won't work.

It takes patience and discipline (so if you don't have those qualities maybe you shouldn't be in a relationship to start with)...but it truly works....

I read this book at the request of a woman who has profoundly impacted my life on all levels. This book focuses on society's very real issues in relationships. These issues have always existed, however today we see a steady increase in divorce, STD, abortion, etc. Why?

"The Hollywood Formula"
This belief instills into current society "fast love" concepts, love as a 100% pain-free experience, and the love/sex identity crisis. It centers on looking to another person to complete yourself. "You complete me."

The God formula emphasizes that you become your true self in Love, and by consequence you will draw true Love to yourself.

Chip explores what profound love is, and what it is not. Paralleling the holy trinity, he explains the 3 loves as the Greeks knew them:
agape - Love that is selfless, without condition, without judgment. (Spirit)
phileo - Love that begets beautiful friendship (Mind)
eros - Love that is erotic, passionate, and physical. (Body)

Profound, True, Love, is rooted in all three of the these.

Today, eros obviously reigns supreme. However, living only on eros is robbing you of the fullness that you could otherwise experience. Human being is mind, body and spirit. You cannot satiate the needs of mind and soul with what satiates the flesh.

Chip includes 12 salient points to consider in evaluating your relationship (which I recommend everyone consider before marriage if you truly seek a love that lasts). He provides 5 non-biblical arguments to avoid sex outside of marriage - again, to consider if you wish to find a love that lasts.

I do not agree with everything Chip presents here, most of which because I think mankind has misinterpreted much of what God communicates in the Bible. Many of the stories he relates seem to equate with experiencing the "wrath of God", but they are actually people experiencing the ravages of guilt. Perhaps guilt is a form of God's wrath... Regardless of those misgivings, I do fully agree that most people today have a warped perspective on love, sex and relationships.

If you take nothing from this book, try as hard as you can to "Walk in Love." And I would like to add to Chip's work and suggest we should all learn to:
Love everyone agape.
Love as many as possible in phileo,
Love one in eros.

If we could learn to do this, we would attain a far better understanding of God.

I leave you to ponder the meaning of this statement:
"I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me."

Substitute "me" with the statement of "I am."

"No man cometh unto the Father, but by the way, the truth, and the life."

You will truly know God when you live the way, the truth, and the life. Really think about all of what Jesus says in John 14.

Jesus told us 2000 years ago how to know God. Live like He did.

This book is terrific. It explains how our society gets into trouble by confusing sex and love. It explores the negative impact of sex outside of marriage. And it tells you how to maintain sexual purity and real love in a marriage. If you believe it and live it, it works.

Every person, married or single should read and LIVE what Chip teaches in this book. I knew something was wrong with my dating life. Chip explained what and why. You must read this book and be open to allowing Christ to do His work in you. If you're serious, you'll be blessed. Buy it and Live it!