I just finished the audio CDs. I found it very insightful. Although I may not agree with every detail of the book, I do agree that it all comes down to communication and trying to understand what your spouse is saying. Look beyond the hurt, anger, and sadness. If you and your spouse are "good willed" people, you will see the message being told.

I read some comments regarding Eggerichs sexiest tone. Well, he is a male and he is trying his best to express both sides. By nature, he would have a better understanding of the male gender, as should be expected. Regardless if he is a Pastor. Man is Man. For anyone to think that male and female (or for that matter every human) thinks, interrupts or rationalizes the same are living in a fantasy world. This book points out the fact that we all should honestly and with understanding listen to each other. Then take the action to stop the madness.

As for the comments about its all the woman's fault/blame and women should make/start the change is totally off the wall. If they read or listened to the section on "Couple", they would not have even been able to write that comment honestly. Eggerichs' message to men is hard and not easy for a man to swallow. One needs to look beyond their hurt, anger, sadness, and pride to see what is being wrote. I am a woman and I roar, but I do not need to bite my husband's head off to prove anything. Also, I found that many comments in the "Couple" section would be very hard for me to follow. What does that say?

This book is not the sole solution to a troubled marriage, but one of the better ones. It is only one the many tools out there to help us all get on and stay on the road to a peaceful, happy, and loving (yes, respectful too) marriage. I would also recommend Five Languages of Love by Gary Chapman. This may help some people swallow some of the things Eggerichs' is saying a little easier. I would recommend Love and Respect to any couple considering marriage and for couples already married, regardless of the condition of this marriage.

In this religiously based approach to marriage counseling, Dr. Eggerichs provides insights into breaking deteriorating cycles that destroy marriages. In its simplest form, Dr. Eggerichs explains that men need to feel respect and women need to feel love in order for a healthy marriage to grow and flourish. Through three separate cycles labeled as: "Crazy", "Energizing", and "Rewarded", couples are able to look and see what are the underlying reasons which keep their relationship from being a harmonious one.

Another relationship book that I highly recommend is "How To Create A Magical Relationship" written by Ariel and Shya Kane. The Kanes' book is a masterpiece in providing practical insights in creating and maintaining loving, fun and satisfying relationships, not only with your spouse but with yourself as well. The Kanes also wrote "Working On Yourself Doesn't Work" which is my favorite guide to living in the moment. In reading both of these books my life became far less stressful and miraculous relationships became the norm.

I ordered the book on CD for our Small Group Bible study and we just finished it. One marriage has been drastically changed and the other three - God is at work there. The women loved it and the guys totally got it. One of our men even said "this guy is RIGHT on the money!" I highly recommend the book and especially the book on CD for those who dislike reading or just can't find the time to sit down. We have three A-type personalities in the group and they totally appreciated being able to listen in the car or at work on their computers.

Love and Respect is a wonderful book! It really helped me understand many things. It deals with situations in which a man or woman is responsible for discord in the relationship. This is one topic I have learned about in the past, and thought I had really implemented in my life, but I was amazed at how much I still did not understand about the way men think and respond. Read this book even if you're not having marital problems.