IN THE MEANTIME : Finding Yourself and the Love You Want 
asked by nutshell on November 1, 2006 9:46 PM
What is the meantime? According to author and inspirational speaker Iyanla Vanzant, being in the "meantime" means being in a state of limbo. "When you are not happy where you are and you are not quite sure if you want to leave or how to leave, you are in the meantime," she explains. Rather than wallow in confusion, Vanzant encourages you to use the meantime as an opportunity to prepare yourself for true love. The first order of business is to clean house, starting with the basement--the place in the psyche where you store your most destructive thoughts. Room by room, Vanzant takes you through a metaphorical cleaning of the soul. This way, when your meantime days are over and love finally comes knocking on the front door, you'll have a clean house to welcome love into.
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Iyanla is very personable. She really makes you stop and think that we are not crazy or wrong, we all just need to believe and trust in ourselves.
reviewed by soulful on November 4, 2006 6:34 PM
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My wife and I have been married 11 years, things have been better between us. We both went out and bought books to help with the relationship (or so I thought). After reading the book my wife explained that we should "wait and see". I, at the same time, read the 7 Principles of Marriage. My take was, our relationship is bent not broken, let's try to fix it together. After reading half of "in the meantime" I see where she got her opinion of "action". You have two choices from the book: 1. Do nothing until "inspiration" hits 2. Throw away everything and start over. Either way the book gives no other options or practical examples to move ahead together in a positive way. Don't waste your time and hope to God that your significant other doesn't get a hold of this book.
reviewed by vegaswinner on November 5, 2006 2:11 AM
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Iyanla Vanzant speaks mostly about the importance of "living in the now", something we all know but are too busy to practice. She does a nice job too of comparing the Western style of "Doing" as opposed to the Eastern style of "Being." Linking the two cultural aspects could not have been an easy task, and I applaud Ms. Vanznant for having the courage to reach into a women's soul, and to draw out the ugliness that lives there.
The readers who are truly 'in the basement' probably won't get much out of this book, but those of us on any higher level will start to 'get it'. It helps you understand that growth is a process, and progress isn't easy or visible at every turn. It shows that our vision changes as we progress and that the pain we are going through will eventually be replaced with love and hope! If you are new to recovery or spirituality, some other books may be more helpful at first, but coming back to this book is like working a puzzle - confusing at first, but with steady progress becomes easier and satisfying.
She is well informed as an author who knows women's most intimate feelings. Men would do well to read this book as well. She is able to consolidate religion, psychology, and psychotherapy all in one book. It also discusses how both our childhood as well as previous experiences make us who we are, including our parts that need to be healed - NOT FIXED!
Overall a good book serving as a potential antidote for assisting readers being true to themselves. It all starts and ends with YOU!, truly an amazing book.
The readers who are truly 'in the basement' probably won't get much out of this book, but those of us on any higher level will start to 'get it'. It helps you understand that growth is a process, and progress isn't easy or visible at every turn. It shows that our vision changes as we progress and that the pain we are going through will eventually be replaced with love and hope! If you are new to recovery or spirituality, some other books may be more helpful at first, but coming back to this book is like working a puzzle - confusing at first, but with steady progress becomes easier and satisfying.
She is well informed as an author who knows women's most intimate feelings. Men would do well to read this book as well. She is able to consolidate religion, psychology, and psychotherapy all in one book. It also discusses how both our childhood as well as previous experiences make us who we are, including our parts that need to be healed - NOT FIXED!
Overall a good book serving as a potential antidote for assisting readers being true to themselves. It all starts and ends with YOU!, truly an amazing book.
reviewed by hooked on November 18, 2006 2:19 AM