I Don't Have to Make Everything All Better 
asked by borat on November 13, 2006 6:08 PM
In their weekly radio show and in their popular workshops, Gary and Joy Lundberg have already helped thousands of people and their families to communicate more effectively. Now, the Lundbergs address an all too common dilemma that arises when others expect you to solve their problems for them, showing readers how they can shed the no-win role of "fixer" and empower people to solve their own problems through validation--a simple yet profound communication tool that is essential to any healthy relationship. Refreshingly straightforward, this inspiring and entertaining work is poised to become a classic guide for anyone who wishes to improve relationships with their partner, children, colleagues and friends.
"Splendid . . . Powerfully teaches the concept of human validation and helps empower others to be responsible."--Stephen R. Covey, author of The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People
"Splendid . . . Powerfully teaches the concept of human validation and helps empower others to be responsible."--Stephen R. Covey, author of The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People
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I purchased this book while in college and I had a friend struggling with depression. I allowed myself to be pulled down and found this book to offer some guidance. It allowed me to recognize we needed professional help to alleviate being kicked out of school due to poor grades. Highly recommended for men that feel they need to make everything all better.
reviewed by iconfess on November 19, 2006 5:51 AM
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This book outlines a technique for dealing with other peoples tantrums/whining in a way that communicates empathy. The examples given are somewhat nauseating unless you are very religious and conservative but it is the process not the content that matters. Aside from whatever your true feelings may be, implementing Lundberg's phrases makes people think you really care for and understand them and helps them develop their own problem solving skills. It may be worth doing for that reason alone. It works especially well on children, in the car when they can't see your smirking face from the back seat. If you ever find yourself saying "quit whining and just do it!" or "you're over reacting." this may be the book for you.
reviewed by faithfulone on November 21, 2006 7:27 PM
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This book is great.
Easy to read, practical, with very concrete advice that WORKS immediately!
You can start applying the suggestions right away and reap the benefits.
It worked with my 3 year old son and my 60 year old father. It's going to really enhance the relationship I have with my son.
Easy to read, practical, with very concrete advice that WORKS immediately!
You can start applying the suggestions right away and reap the benefits.
It worked with my 3 year old son and my 60 year old father. It's going to really enhance the relationship I have with my son.
No kidding! Depending on your personality type, if you are experiencing some stress & communication problems in your relationships, buy this book right away. It could do miracles for you too.
reviewed by john316 on November 27, 2006 7:51 PM
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I am often skeptical of self-help books, anticipating that they may be too simplistic, but this one did not fall into this group. The authors take care in their presentation of ideas, and while it is simple, accessible, and conversational, it is well-thought out, caring, and well-presented. I learned to validate others' feelings rather than feeling compelled to correct the person or the problem. While I am not a dramatically changed person, which few books can hope for, I do expect that the book helped these ideas sink in. My 3 stars is a postive rating: I save 4 and 5 for special cases.
reviewed by miceandmen on November 29, 2006 4:06 AM