Getting the Love You Want Workbook: The New Couples' Study Guide 
In 1988, Harville Hendrix in partnership with his wife, Helen LaKelly Hunt, published a terrifically successful relationship guide, Getting the Love You Want. The book introduced thousands to their Imago Relationship Therapy, a unique healing process for couples, prospective couples, and parents, and developed into an overnight sensation. For their part, Doctors Hendrix and Hunt managed to aid scores of couples in their plight for more loving, supportive, and deeply satisfying relationships. Now, more than a decade later, this companion book picks up where its predecessor left off, delving further into relationship therapy once again, to help transform relationships into lasting sources of love and companionship.
The Getting the Love You Want Workbook is designed for the hundreds of thousands of couples who have attended Imago workshops since Getting the Love You Want hit bookstands, as well as new and curious ones seeking a practical route back to intimacy and passionate friendship. The workbook contains a unique twelve-week course (The New Couples' Study Guide) designed to help work through the exercises published in Part III of Getting the Love You Want. Included are complete step-by-step instructions for transforming relationships into a lasting source of love and companionship.
For those of us struggling to maintain our most precious relationships, the Getting the Love You Want Workbook helps us grow aware of our individual, unconscious agenda while steering us towards a more harmonious link with our loved ones that will satisfy our deepest needs.
Reviews
For most couples, the exercises in this book are likely to be a source of growth and joy. But if you start to find something else please try to find assistance.
Any self-help book in the field of psychology has this potential pitfall. The growth process is seldom completely straight-forward.
Please note that I am not saying, "Don't buy this book." I believe that it may be a source of growth for many couples. I believe that Harville Hendrix has one of the best conceptual frameworks for relationship. What I am saying is that growth is risky, and that if you and your partner start to feel problems or less close, it may be time to seek professional assistance.
Good luck and good loving to all.
Session 7 is entitled "Re-Romanticizing your Relationship I: Caring Behaviors." It directs each person to list the behaviors he/she has "always wanted but have never asked for." The instructions then elaborate by saying the wants may be "your vision of a perfect mate...may be private fantasies or secret desires." They fail to limit the scope. There are some behaviors over which a person may have no control such as medication side-effects or physiological depression. Following the instructions blindly and trusting they allow for and deal with such situations. I honestly included some desires that my mate is unable to provide. These lists were then exchanged. She appeared to accept them at the time, but they actually caused her a great deal of anguish. So my wife now knows my fantasy wants but she cannot fulfill them even though she would very much like to. This left her feeling inadequate to the point she gave me an "out" of our relationship of many years. That is the last thing I would ever want. As a result, I am quite angry and feeling very guilty. Looking ahead to the next sessions, not only do they not deal with this type of possibility, but they use these lists to intensify the exercises. I should have known better. We threw the books in the trash. We have spent a good deal of time overcoming those feelings of hurt and regret. From the beginning, I have had trouble with the title as, to me, "wants" has its roots in selfishness.