Beyond Codependency: And Getting Better All the Time 
asked by perfect10 on November 21, 2006 4:04 PM
You're learning to let go, to live your life free of the grip of someone else's problem. And yet you find you've just started on the long journey of recovery. Let Melody Beattie, author of the classic "Codependent No More", help you along your way. A guided tour past the pitfalls of recovery, "Beyond Codependency" is dedicated to those strugglng to master the art of self-care. It is a book about what to do once the pain has stopped and you've begun to suspect that you have a life to live. It is about what happens next. In simple, straightforward terms, Beattie takes you into the territory beyond codependency, into the realm of recovery and relapse, family-of-origin work and relationships, surrender and spirituality. With personal stories, hard-won insights,and activities, her book teaches the lessons of dealing with shame, growing in self-steem, overcoming deprivation, and getting past fatal attractions long enough to find relationships that work.
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The truth of the matter is:
We don't want to hear it and we make any excuse to deny it. This book is a denial killer!
I have been in recovery for years and let me just tell you, Beattie is right on top of the root problem. No matter who reads the words, the truth is loud and clear. I would recommend this item to anyone having problems with any relationship.
You don't need to be a doctor or a shrink to see the writing on the wall. Beattie spells it out and even if you don't agree, it will open your mind to change. Worth every penny spent!
We don't want to hear it and we make any excuse to deny it. This book is a denial killer!
I have been in recovery for years and let me just tell you, Beattie is right on top of the root problem. No matter who reads the words, the truth is loud and clear. I would recommend this item to anyone having problems with any relationship.
You don't need to be a doctor or a shrink to see the writing on the wall. Beattie spells it out and even if you don't agree, it will open your mind to change. Worth every penny spent!
reviewed by ragtop on November 22, 2006 3:49 AM
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This is a snippet of an essay by Dr. Robert Westermeyer, an outstanding addiction counselor...
" a concern to me a(re) the people who have the capacity for genuine empathy and have instilled strong values for kind treatment toward others getting the message that to act on it (unless it's reciprocated in equivalent allotments) is wrong. Empathy is good and caring is good. Friendships which last are usually based on mutual caring and even occasional self-sacrifice. Mellody Beattie's idea that relationships should always be equitable reflects the temperament of a five-year old. And with regard to the notion that being in a relationship with someone who is addicted is synonymous with pathology, Absurd. There is no empirical data to support the belief that being a member of a family in which there is addiction warrants diagnosis of a personality disorder (e.g. Gomberg,1989)."
You can find the rest of this piece : here
" a concern to me a(re) the people who have the capacity for genuine empathy and have instilled strong values for kind treatment toward others getting the message that to act on it (unless it's reciprocated in equivalent allotments) is wrong. Empathy is good and caring is good. Friendships which last are usually based on mutual caring and even occasional self-sacrifice. Mellody Beattie's idea that relationships should always be equitable reflects the temperament of a five-year old. And with regard to the notion that being in a relationship with someone who is addicted is synonymous with pathology, Absurd. There is no empirical data to support the belief that being a member of a family in which there is addiction warrants diagnosis of a personality disorder (e.g. Gomberg,1989)."
You can find the rest of this piece : here
reviewed by jdog on November 25, 2006 7:55 AM
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An excellent book for those who are continuing recovery! We already have the scattered bits and pieces of information, now what do we do with them and how do we integrate them into our lives and become the people we were born to be.
reviewed by soulful on November 29, 2006 2:34 PM
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I read Codependency no more several years ago and was not ready to understand the concept of Codependancy. Now that I am divorcing the chemically dependant person in my life the information in both books is life changing. Understanding the concepts of codependancy and what it more normal is very healing.
I look forward to a new and more healthy way of living!
Thank you Melody ;-)
I look forward to a new and more healthy way of living!
Thank you Melody ;-)
reviewed by runaway on November 29, 2006 6:39 PM