Kerner's book has a lot going for it - it's funny, it provides a man's point of view, and has some good information about sex and male/female differences. As you read the book, you grow to like Kerner a little. And the professed theme of the book, which advises women to stop settling and to wait for the real thing, is a REALLY important message that more women's books need to focus on.

On the downside, I had a hard time getting clear on what exactly Kerner's point was. He seemed to tell women to not settle, but then talked quite a bit about sex (he's a sex therapist) and provided a chapter written by his wife about meeting him. The book seemed to give you an overview and make you laugh, rather than really dive into the more meaty topic of raising your standards.

Overall, a decent book and worth a read. But not a classic.

Before this book, I was the kind of person who didn't like reading, at all. This book was my very first book that I finished reading in the past five years. What made it successful for me to finish reading was that this book was well organized and easy to understand with examples.

This author is not only a professional sex/relationship therapist but also a great writer who studied writing. He knows how to write well to grab your attention and understanding.

I liked how he started and ended each chapter. This book, of course, helped me move on as a better person, raising my standards and self-esteem. It made me understood why I had been stuck with such losers for a long time, and how to change the view point knowing what to be aware of.

I truly appreciate what this book has done for me. I've been strongly recommending this book to my great girl friends who should deserve better men.

Completely useless to women in their 50s or over 45 --- the book appears to be written for college students and 20s+ whose relationships are primarily based on sex and who have a huge reservoir of available mates from which to choose. It's emphasis upon self-respect is fine.... but the author has no understanding of (nor does the address) the realities of the over 50.

This book is mostly about sex, probably because it was written by a sex therapist. It is nothing like "He's Just not that into you" which is more of a how to guide to dating and relationships. This "sex book" is not all that great.

I actually picked this book up for a girlfriend of mine whom I have seen go through this cycle of meeting men at bars, sleeping with them, telling me they weren't that great (which was true) and then obsessing and being miserable if they don't call her. She even recognizes that the guys are not right for her and does not know why she obsesses. I have seen so many single girlfriends go through this and I just have not understood it!!! These are smart, attractive, fun women with good jobs and a good life. Why do they act so desperate? The message of this book is to find your integrity and respect yourself - this will empower you to live your life and not define yourself by a relationship you do or do not have. Don't waste your time with men that are not what you want! Focus on you and what you want to do in life. Only then can you really find a healthy, lasting relationship. I am in the midst of a divorce and this book helped me realize that one of they key reasons it did not work is because I was not that in to him to begin with and lowered my standards because I WANTED to get married - EXACTLY as the author describes! I became an emotional contortionist trying to make it work. And even though with my divorce not finalized, I am not yet on the dating treadmill, this book convinced that I don't even want to go there!!! Thank you!!!