This is a good book with lots of practical advise, useful exercises and thought provoking material. It invites you to look at your patterns in relationships and provides good guidelines for avoiding unhealthy people and situations.

I particularly liked the section in this book on the importance of sexual chemistry. This section also includes a useful quiz for determining how much sexual chemistry you have with a partner. This may sound unnecessary, however, this particular quiz goes beyond mere sexual attraction and includes things that reveal sexual connection in the deepest sense of the word.

I don't necessarily agree with everything Barbara De Angelis says, but there is certainly a hefty amount of wisdom between the pages of this book. She is not just telling people what they want to hear either. This makes this title more than just another "feel good" self-help book on relationship.

There are two types of negative reviews for this book. Those in denile about their current relationship who are pissed off that the book pointed something out, or those who are grazing through hundred of pages for a few things they don't like. No book is going to be 100% for everything. It's a book, not a therapist. And personal attacks do not make a logical argument, you have to say what's wrong with the book!

After several months I've still been trying to get over my last gf. Well, last year when I was 28, she was my first gf. My low self esteem, and some other problems led me into a total hell, all the time thinking that she was "the one" for me. I used to be severly depressed, but am now over that...so I found someone who was current depressed, addicted to multiple drugs, and went on a rescue mission. Her chapters on trying to rescue someone, and a partner on drugs made total sense to me. And I was in so much denile. At the time I had a therapist, (80% of the conversation was about my gf) who even told me she was abusive, but I did not want to listen. I suppose if I had the book them I would not have listened either.

But now I see why I've been attracted to depressed people (that gf wasn't the only one), and just recently met a new person. The type of person I chose to find, and for the most part the books advice doesn't say not to go with her.

One thing I don't like, is a part that is telling me not to date cause my self esteem is low and I should inward first. This is what I mean that it's a book, and the information shouldn't be the ten comandments written in stone. I didn't date my whole life cause of low self-esteem. Now after radical changes to my health and working out so much with my therapist, the book is telling me not to date. But dating makes me feel so much better. It's fun, and I like myself more after having a good time, and getting and email from a girl that she enjoyed being with me. The key is finding somone whose compatable with me, not some psycho who's going to take advantage of my low self esteem, and for me to learn not to put my problems on someone else.

But face the facts, if we have to be all together before we find someone, and have to be totaly happy and everything, then what's the point on looking for someone? And isn't part of having a parnter, to have someone who helps you, or to help him/her through the tough times?

well, thanks to this, I'm so over my ex gf

the only way this book will work is if all women are the exact person.

if you're the type of person who needs this book, forget about men, just read books because this book won't help you.